You could ask your doctor. Unfortunately, your doctor has had almost no training in human sexuality, beyond basic anatomy and function. Even psychiatrists get very little training in human sexuality. 

In times past, the elders would teach the young members of the tribe about sex by showing them. Nowadays, teaching someone about sex as a sex expert in a live situation, even simply demonstrating techniques on a third party, could get you arrested. At the Lifestyles convention, it was against the law for the instructor in an oral sex demonstration to use any props or dildos to show the techniques. They could only be described.

That leaves video as the best, and also the most convenient way to learn. Most of the sex videos we've seen from the twentieth century have not been very good. We even participated as on camera talent in the making of one for a major company. They had been given a waterproof vibrator for the segment on sex toys, and their "sex experts" had no idea what to do with it.  As was traditional with most sex instructional videos, the sex experts needed to have a medical degree. In our experience, a lot of so-called sex experts with great credentials have had very limited real world understanding of sexuality. The other problem with sex experts from the medical community, especially those from the psychiatric end, is that their practices tend to deal with dysfunction rather than function. They can fix something that is not working, but they don't know nearly as much about enhancing and adding to what is already working.

One of the things that is getting better is that videos are getting more explicit and more specific. Those that make explicit videos still find that there is a large market for softer versions, even though those versions may not be as effective at teaching. Part of this is the demand from some viewers, but it is also the only way to get into the major video retailers and rental stores, which won't carry anything explicit no matter how educational (although they will carry explicit war documentaries of people being blown to bits). The spectre of sexual fear dies very hard. 

In the newer instructional videos, some of the best contributions come from those without medical degrees or PhDs after their names. Porn stars, people involved with Tantra, sexual surrogates, swingers, and others with a sexually experimental bent are getting involved in the making of videos and sharing their real world experience. 
 

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